The moment a woman starts to realize that her husband is falling out of love with her, there’s a whole host of emotions that overtake her. At this point it doesn’t matter if the marriage is decades old or if the couple recently took a walk down the aisle. The disenchantment, the confusion and the sadness is real. The woman in question is bound to feel as though her entire world is turning upside down. Many couples in this situation will just coast along, with the wife hopeful that something will magically shift and her husband will become devoted and loving again. That’s not going to happen. If you ignore the changes in your marriage you will inevitably be faced with the prospect of a separation or a divorce. If you want to win back the love of your man you need to be prepared to compromise and give it everything you have.
It’s highly unlikely that your husband woke one day with the realization that he didn’t love you anymore. That’s not how relationships work. Something has shifted over time and it may have taken him years to realize that the emotional bond he once felt for you just doesn’t exist anymore. You are going to feel lost when he tells you that he thinks he has fallen out of love but you have to try and accept that his feelings have changed. It’s important to note that there’s a very large difference between accepting your husband has shifted in terms of his feelings from love to like and the marriage being over. A discussion about his changed feelings can actually spur the desire within you to repair the marriage.
Take a few moments and think about your marriage and the path that it has taken over the years. Chances are very good that when you two first connected you loved spending every waking moment together that you could. Somewhere along the line that shifted and your husband decided that working on something in the garage or going to a ball game with friends would be easier or more enjoyable than being with you. It may have happened after you welcomed children into your family or perhaps it was when one of you had a brief affair. Something changed and it’s important that you recognize when it happened and what you can do now to move things forward in a much more positive direction.
When any woman feels her husband becoming distant it’s understandable that she’d immediately feel the need to point the finger of blame at him. I did this myself when my own marriage was in turmoil. I could feel my husband pulling back from me so I blamed him. I assumed that he had single handedly decided that he didn’t love me anymore. The reality was that we had both stopped working on the marriage years before and he was just brave enough to admit that to himself and to me.
Look at your place within the marriage and pay special attention to how you interact with your husband. Have you been as thoughtful and giving as you want him to be with you? Sometimes we must show by example if we want our husbands to treasure us. Begin by searching your own soul for the power to be kind, loving and generous even in the face of his changing emotions and you may be surprised by how much his attitude towards you will change.